When you start to do research on how to become a surrogate mother, many people skip over the section of how to help your family adjust to this major decision. Most people concentrate on making a difference in someone’s life and the monetary element of becoming a surrogate mother. There are many great reasons to doing this altruistic deed for someone else, but it’s important that the relationships in your life don’t suffer because of this decision.
Initially, when you begin to the process, you might know exactly what to expect since you’ve gone through a pregnancy before, but every situation is different and it’s important to learn how to manage the relationships in your life when you are going through this process. This doesn’t just mean how it can impact the relationship between your spouse, it also means how it affects your parents and even your siblings. Before you decide that becoming a surrogate is the right choice for you, you’ll want to make sure that you know how to manage the relationships in your life to avoid confusion and miscommunication.
Ways To Help Your Partner Adjust
Having your partner’s support during the process of being a surrogate can be the most important because you’ll need someone to rely on. Your significant other is the first person you should discuss this decision with because he will need time to adjust to the situation. By having a serious conversation with your significant other about being a surrogate mother, you’ll know if this is the right process for the both of you. Becoming a surrogate is about you making the final decision, but it’s also how it’ll affect the people around you, especially because you’ll need the support.
Some ways to make sure that your partner is well adjusted with the idea of you becoming a surrogate is that you talk to your partner about this situation in an in depth conversation. Maybe you don’t just talk to your significant partner about it once either, perhaps a few conversations are in order to really make sure that the communication is there between you. Another way that you can help your partner adjust is by asking him for help with the situation. While it may be difficult for you to ask for assistance during the surrogacy process, it’s important that you make your partner feel included and that communication is free flowing between the two of you.
Another way to help your partner adjust is by making sure that you spend time with each other. If you don’t take the time to spend time with your partner, then it could really shake up your relationship. While you’re going through the surrogacy process, you’ll want to go on dates, watch movies, and even go to doctors appointments together.
Helping Your Children To Adjust
Besides your partner, your children will need help adjusting to the new situation. Unlike your partner, your children won’t fully understand what’s going on with the surrogacy process. Fortunately, there are many different ways that you can help them adjust to the situation. The first one is by reading them a book about surrogacy. There are so many child-friendly books out there about surrogacy that you’ll be able to pick one that really helps your child relate to the situation at their own reading level. The books are straightforward and easy for your child to understand.
Another way that you can make sure that your child adjusts to the situation is by getting them involved in it. It might be daunting and confusing for your child to see mommy’s stomach expand, but when you get them involved, they’ll be much more liable to be comfortable with the situation. One way you can get them involved is to write to the other family or look through pictures of babies. Many children can feel left out during the pregnancy, so getting them involved can help to show that you value them and they are as much a part of the process as you and your partner.
Making Sure Your Parents And Siblings Are Supportive
When it comes to your parents and siblings, they’ll need some help in supporting your decision to become a surrogate. First, being a surrogate is your decision, but it’s understandable that you’d want to talk to your parents and siblings before making this decision, especially because you should have all the support you need. One way that you can make your parents and siblings more comfortable with the decision is by sparking their curiosity. Sparkling their curiosity includes sharing stories of the parents that want children and encouraging them to read articles on surrogacy.
Choice Surrogacy has helped many different families get the outcome they want with a surrogate. The Surrogate Experience is something that you’re doing completely on your own accord to help a family that needs assistance. If you want to give a family the opportunity to have a child they wouldn’t otherwise have, then we encourage you to start the process of becoming a surrogate by applying now.